Shattered 2 Peace

Encouraging and Walking Beside Women Affected by Trauma

To Speak or Not to Speak

To Speak or Not to Speak

I know, I know, you don’t know what to do. You don’t know how to act when you see me or others going through difficult times. You don’t know whether to ask about what is going on or ignore the elephant in the room. I find that people sometimes do not want to step out of their own comfort zone to really know what is going on. I am not upset, rather I am here to inform you how to talk to people like myself who are going through extremely hard times.

There are also so many people who do step out of their comfort zone and ask and I am so appreciative of all of you. Those few words “How are things going?’ mean more to me than you will know. I don’t always know how to answer, so be prepared for a variety of answers and emotions. There are times when people ask and I can see they don’t have time to answer or I am really not in a good emotional place that I will answer with a simple “fine” or “okay”.

What means the most to me is the people who do ask, the people who care enough to take a few moments out of their lives to hear, to listen, to empathize, to cry or pray with me. The ones who lend an ear no matter what my current emotion may be. The ones who send a text asking how I am and are always just a text or call away.

I am usually always the glue in my friendships and social circles. I no longer am, so please don’t be offended if I don’t call you every week like usual or text just to check-in. My friendship and love for you has not changed, I am merely in survival mode and have a harder time reaching out to people outside my home. So please, change it up and BE the glue for me, I am sure my stickiness (Lol) will return at some point.

So I guess what I am saying is if you see me, please ask me about Luke, I will not fall apart, I most likely won’t cry and it will mean more to me than you will know. I love you all and thank you for your support!


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